My oldest son has his son, Harry, visualizing.
Harry has bought in and is determined to make his personal visualization of becoming a successful basketball player come true.
Harry is a very disciplined twelve year old. He works out diligently.
He is very clear: everything he does is with the vision he has in his mind of himself becoming a successful basketball player.
Of course It doesn’t hurt to have a supportive father who himself was a successful basketball player.
Harry does not yet fully comprehend that his only requirement is to pass that visualizing along to his son. But he will have to do it like his father did to him – with unreserved love.
His dad loves Harry. Harry loves his dad. Does love come before visualizing? Visualizing is enabled first by the love a father has for his son.
Love is not so much a theme studied by science or philosophy, as it is a relationship you know when you see it.
Love is not only a precursor for visualizing, it is first among all pursuits a father and son engage in.
Does a father always succeed at that? No, but the father should keep the effort alive. If he can’t, a son can, and often does, step in to fill the void.
The possibility of unrequited love between either a father and or a son deserves a push in the opposite direction.
If the push exhausts itself, a rest from it all is natural. But, then tomorrow comes and with love there’s always the surprises that may follow.
Why am I such an expert on love? I’ve been a father and I’ve been a son.